ON BEING A LADY AND A SISTER

The 2 balikbayan boxes has been filled with goods that are ready for shipping. Saying goodbye to these babies will be a blessing to those who needs extra pieces of clothing that they can use for their OJT, school or even just going the mall. Decluttering my closet seems like decluttering a portion of my life. These clothes that are ready to be given away made some memorable memories like how I was transformed from being a girl to a lady.
 
I'll always been conservative all of my life. I learned to wear sleeveless tops when I was in college already and I was uncomfortable when I first wore it. I always wear pants, pants and pants! Dresses seem a bit acceptable for special gatherings but honestly, I was fidgeting the whole time I'm in a dress. Shorts that I get to wear are just above the knee and that's the reason why most of them see me as tomboy or boyish back then. I don't wear make-up, and I'm just the Plain Jane like mostly girls my age are like.
 
Changes happen if you allow it, and with regard to this, I let it consume me. Little revamp is not bad after all. I started investing in looking okay because I feel "in" in the world I'm living. The joy you get to look a little better on photos which somehow says "you've grown from an ugly duckling to a-not-so-ugly-duckling". Boys started to notice you, like you did exist and not just a wallflower at last. The attention you get is a validation that you now look different from your past, say more human this time? Hehe.
 
Gaining friends that share the same interest had influenced me in some way since they are more seasoned in this field I recently joined in. My curiosity in fashion, make-up and shopping grew overtime. Basically, I was trying to enjoy what I was missing for quite sometime. I feel like I'm a real, real lady after being guided with my kikay friends. That's one change that I did allow to happen in my early 20's.

Proverbs 31:30 "Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised."

It's more of being a follower on the leadership my friends gave over me on how to dress and fix myself. There is nothing wrong being vain, it's more of taking care of your body. However, you may want not to overdo it ☺

When I aged gracefully, I fully understand how to dress appropriately. Meaning, I choose pieces that will make me look beautiful not sexy, clothes that are classy and not skimpy. I wear tube tops if my blouse's neckline is a bit low, I wear boyleg underneath a dress or skirt. In a brief form, I want to keep my conservative fashion sense.

Lady should be modest at all times. How you act towards the opposite sex is important, too. Don't let any other guy just hug you when you both are happy or just for the sake of giving into his request when he is down and comes up to you saying "I need a hug" Mamaya gusto lang maka free load niyan. Another thing I've noticed is holding someone else's hand for no apparent reason, para kasing pa-simpleng free load ulit. Ladies, don't let any guy do this to you especially if you are just friends. It's totally different if you are getting this from a gay friend as opposed to a guy friend. Just saying ☺

I clearly tell these to my babies one time over Bible study. They are my friends from previous work which we decided to meet once a week to catch up on each other's lives. Our conversations over cups of coffee made us realize more how a lady should be a lady. They are years younger than me and guiding them in little ways I possibly can is more than playing a leader to them. It's more of guiding them so they can pass it on to the next generation that they will meet along the way.

In my years of working, I handled different team of professionals with different personalities. Honestly, that is not an easy thing to do, it's quite challenging. How they will accept your leadership? How will you make them follow you? How they will trust you? These are some of the questions that always play in my mind when I was still an eager beaver. But being a leader is more of being a servant.

Jesus is a leader and He served His people. He washed the sinners' feet, He didn't need a stage to spread God's words. He didn't asked any of His people to carry Him, but He walked with them. He even invited the tax collector that no one during His time would have invited him to eat with Jesus.

1 Timothy 4:12 "Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity."

Being a leader means...

Selfless - You always have to think of your people's welfare before you.

Love - Everything you do, do it because there is love in it. Do it for the LORD.

Purity - Make sure that it always about purity in all the things that you do that will benefit not just yourself, but the others as well.

Watch what you say - Words can hurt anyone, it can give much pain rather than a deep-cut wound. Before you say something think and pray; pause for a split second and say "Help me God"

Bible - Always read the Bible, pray and seek godly counsel.
 

1 comment:

  1. i like how you dress, classy is the best term mam

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