THE CUT

There will be a lot of people that was put into our lives by purpose. Some of them chose to stay, some don't. I don't see anything wrong in choosing people and be friends with them. Letting them be a part of your life means that you trust them enough that they will contribute to your growth and not sway you to a different road instead. The Bible clearly tells us to be away from people who are considered to be "dogs" and beware of "evil workers" 

 

I call these people my "Christian Friends" These are my friends whom are godly, good, Spirit-filled, and most of all, they will tap your back if need be so you'll be reminded that you need to get back on track.

 

As you will see in the Scripture verses listed below – you will need other good, solid, Christian friends in your life to help you grow in the Lord.

The Bible tells us that we can only “know in part.” No one has all of the answers to everything.

By sharing your walk with other good, solid, Christian friends, you can each help each other out in your pursuit of the knowledge and ways of God.

 

Never be sad if some don't make it to your future, just move on. Look back on those days that you spent with the person and learn from it.

Let me share a story once shared to me during a BK (Burger King) fellowship. They met 2006 thru a friend and they'd been friends for 2 years when the friendship died mid 2008. Now the question is, "What happened?"

James and Alex met thru Alex' friend from work. It was funny that James missed the party the girl attended (which was held at Alex friend's house - Cris). James asked Cris for the camera to see what he had missed because he was late for 3 hours and yes, everyone already left. While browsing, James noticed a girl in pink shirt and asked his friend who the girl was and bugged him to introduce him to her. Cris gave in after a week of James' bugging. Funny part was he called Alex the moment he got her number and the initial reaction of Alex was somehow expected "Huh? Sino ka ba?" (Huh? Who are you?) and James said "Tingin ko nga mahal na kita eh, hehe!" (I think I already fell in love with you) and Alex dropped the call. END of Story.

Not yet, but since James was a bit tipsy or sober when he did that - the flow of conversation was kinda expected. But the next day, the guy apologize and he started to win the girl's trust that he is not what she think he is. To make the story short, they became friends after and their "friendship" ran for 2 years. James did court Alex for 2 years and sad to say, it didn't progress to another level. For a lot of reason that I perfectly understand where Alex is coming from, from the time she made the decision not to start another chapter with James. The details are some sort of sensitive for blogging and in respect to both of them (James and Alex) I will keep it to myself :)

They parted ways after 2 years for acceptable amount of reasons the girl had that time. As what I want to coin it irreconcilable differences. But God works in ways that we cannot imagine, and later this year, the 2 reunited. After nearly 6 years, James changed a lot so Alex did. Both of them serve at their local churches and James is a pastoral worker. Can you imagine how God did change them, especially the guy? From someone who doesn't have plans in life, yes a typical happy-go-lucky-kind-of-guy then it was understandable why Alex didn't jump and be in a relationship with him even after 2 years of courtship. When they said that what they had at that moment will not work; it is a clear sign that neither of them will not make it on each other's future then. Like what I mentioned on the first part of this entry, some choose to stay, some don't.

But what we don't know is it may be temporary or it can be for good. Maybe God wants them to grow separately, to learn on their own. 6 years of no communication. They are not even Facebook friends (since James blocked Alex), they changed their mobile numbers, and even deleted their Friendster accounts. Haaay, pag-ibig nga naman! Iwas-iwas din pag may time eh noh? Hehe.

Looking at them now, they are more matured. James started asking Alex out again and even invited her to attend on the church he is attending. See? Looking 6 years back, they changed a LOT! They didn't peg James has the potential to work for a ministry. He used to drink, smoke and party with no plans on what he wants in his life considering he is already on his late 20's back then. When God calls you, you can never say NO.

God remove them from each other's lives to prepare them for the best part - that is to spend time with God so they will be ready and healed from the past when they meet again. They've been cut through from each other's lives for the betterment of their future.

Avoiding someone works if done properly. It will put halt into any confusion that may lead into something worst if not dealt right away. Why would you put fuel on the fire if your goal is to stop the fire? May sense nga naman, #iwasiwasdinpagmaytime diba? But before doing that, pray about it for there will be pros and cons if you will do it. The person you are avoiding for the time being may take it differently, as what my friend Jon said "Na shutdown na pala, eh di i-turn on ulit!" Again, this is not for everyone's sake thus, you need to tailor fit your decision to your situation. Decide on the facts you gathered, take everything into consideration especially the feelings both of you have ha?

Use your "alone time" or "me time" to come up with a solid decision that you will hold on to. Not just because the pressure is on you, you will give in in the first thing that pops in your mind. If that is the case, then sana you didn't avoid the person since this will mess up the situation even more. Again, use your time wisely :) ask your godly friends for pieces of advice, pour your heart to God and ask for His guidance that you will triumph over this. 


Don't be afraid to cut through on something as long as you know that the main goal is for the BEST.