SINGLE AND READY TO MINGLE

This is the second part for the series Christian Courting. Part 1 is on this link if you want to read it first :)

If you are single and have not married yet, He will lead you to the mate that He will want you to marry if it is in His perfect will that you get married in this life.

And once those boundary lines start to go up – one of the first things that God will do is to decide who is going to be coming into those boundary lines and who will be going out.

In other words, God will be deciding who your true friends are going to be in this life and who will not.

The main reason God will be helping you to choose who your true friends are going to be in this life is because His ultimate and highest aim for you is to transform and sanctify you.

In other words, He wants you to spiritually grow and mature in your walk with Him.

I read it somewhere on the web which I apologize for not remembering where, thus I can't put the link.

Let's take a break first and I want to give my two cents about how can you assess if you are in love or what. What you're feeling is just something popularly known as "infatuation" perhaps? Having these conversations with hashtag #mattersoftheheart or #harshtag may seem a little trivial for me until today. I am no expert in the dating field; there are some guys like "eligible guys" but saying no from their invites (coffee, lunch, movie, dinner) is something that I would not regret doing. You don't push yourself if you are not yet ready to go out again, this will be unfair to the guy who asked you out. I don't mind if I am single for the loooongest time (read LOOOONG) because my goal to be in a relationship is not to end the boredom of being alone (Hey! I'm not even bored) BUT to help the person grow with his faith in God is my ultimate goal. Next will be: being his constant source of craziness and wackiness on a daily basis, number 1 supporter when all else fail and be the number 1 cheerer to lift him up if something bad comes up at work. These reason is not for myself but for the person I will be choosing, since you need to be selfless and not selfish if you are absolutely ready.

How will you gauge your readiness to meet the potential GG (God's Gift)?

Goal - I guess in whatever we do, we have a base and main goal, right? At the early stage of dating, then set a base goal first. That is to meet the right person that you want to be in a relationship with. Does the person met your non-negotiable qualities, if any? Is he/she will lead you closer to Jesus and is he a Christ-centered individual? Don't get into a relationship if you don't think of marriage in the future. You both are just wasting your time. Go back to your goal-setting first before making any move.

Selfless - Definitely, you have your own reasons why you want to meet and greet potential GG right? But are you doing this for your own sake? Peer pressure?

Don't believe in SIGNS - I'm not a believer of signs. Don't put your faith on signs. If you will read the first few parts of the verse below in the Bible, you will realize that these signs we hold on to (sometimes) are just the byproduct of our own minds. We tend to conceptualize and whatever we see, we take it as a sign itself even if it's not.

Exodus 3:11-13 But Moses said to God, “Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?”

And God said, “I will be with you. And this will be the sign to you that it is I who have sent you:
When you have brought the people out of Egypt, you will worship God on this mountain.”

I would agree on showing "signs" to the person you fancy if he/she fancies you, too. It's more of reciprocating [is define by Merriam as: to give and take something mutually] to the actions of the other party which obviously you are both aware of. However, if you don't mutually feel the same in giving your response, then PLEASE do not do so. You are ready to mingle, not single and ready to flirt, ok?

Signs can be born in your mind because you are creating a scenario that you want to happen based on these signs. If we see something, we giddily jump into that conclusion that "this is it!" not knowing it can be just a product of our vivid imagination. If you believe in signs anyways, it will be up to you :) Again, this is my POV and I don't condemn those who believe in signs, magic or anythng in between :) We live in a free country, so feel free anyway! Ayos ba mga repapips? Hehe.

Ladies and gents, this is not the phase wherein you will "collect and select" this is so, sooo not acceptable because that is not so Christian! Don't even think of practising it for the sake of having a vast collection of your potentials. If you will just have to pray for that "someone" whom you want to go with to the next level, then stand up to your actions. Pray for both of you. After all, your goal is not to be the MVP in the playing field, so delete this thought from your system.

Now, it's time for you to make a mental list or note on what specifics will you be looking for in meeting that PGG (Potential God's Gift)

Physically - Do you want a tall or petite? Skinny, sexy, chubby? And the list goes on.

Emotionally - Will this person be emotionally strong enough for you as you will be for him/her?

Spiritually - Do you think that both of you has the same drive and passion in growing your faith with God?

Background - Know the person's background.

It wouldn't hurt to get to know the person a little further. Observe how he/she treats her family members, friends and even strangers (fastfood crew, cab driver, etc.) You will have a better understanding how his/her temper switches.

Does he/she make a good influence in the society? Does he/she tries to BI (bad influence) you if you are caught up between something?

If you are sure that you are ready and sure of everything, then it's about time to start working in meeting your PGG. 

Photos from my old entry about BLESSINGS