THE ONE

This series Christian Courting is not written to be an avenue to highlight the flaws that is not visible to our dear naked eyes. If you want to read the first 2 entries, please feel free to click this and this :)

Once you find “the one”, don’t ever let it go. If “the one” is in the hands of another, play it cool and pretend you don’t like it. Because once you show the other how much you’re dying to get “the one”, the other would see it’s value and will no longer take it for granted.

I read that remark from a fashion blogger on her thoughts about the cardigan she almost didn't end up buying because it's on the hands of another shopper. But if you will pay attention to what she'd said, it will make sense that it is applicable to your lovelife, too.

 

I'm not sure if you are familiar with this book (but I'm hoping yes),  Boy meets Girl by Joshua Harris but I strongly suggest that you may want to read this during/before the courtship stage. Courtship never stops even if you guys are already a couple. What I'd read was the old edition and there is an updated version of the book including this BONUS (Naks! Parang CD lang eh noh?! Hehe)

 

 

 

Lucky for those [of you] that they haven't had experience how it feels to be broken hearted. Whatever you may have in the past, leave that as it is and continue doing what is right. You have come far enough to regress and just keep on going instead. Don't let the little pebbles along the way trip you. There are far more than what you can imagine if you will just keep moving forward while nonchalantly shrugging those distractions from the past.

 

It seems hard to discuss this next part through words, but let the picture somehow gives justice and you'll get the idea of what my point is. Imagine that each of the puzzles has the name written of the person you had a relationship with in the past.

  

Every person whom you had a relationship with, you did give them a portion of your heart. While in the hunt of your so-called "The One" you will keep on giving and giving little pieces of your heart one after the other relationship that does not work until one day, your heart will be too small and fragile leaving you doubtful if you can still manage to give the last small piece left. Questions that will linger in your mind may be similar to these:

 

Will it be unfair to this person that he/she will only get a little piece from you?

 

Can you still give the remaining piece left?

 

Is it okay for your "The One" to receive that little piece in return of his/her whole heart to be given to you? And I guarantee you the answer YES (Why I'm 100% sure of this? You will know later)

 

These maybe some of the queries you have in mind, but are you ready for the responsibilities of being someone's GG (God's Gift)

 

But how will you be ready if you know for a fact that there are inquiries which actually slows or worse hinders you from reaching your goal? We have different stories to tell, these pains/experience definitely made you different at one point and some even shut their doors in finding their one true love. The choice is up to you. If you are ready, GO! Green light is ON! If not yet, then don't rush. Just wait for the right time, it will always be in His time so no need to rush.

 

Now the question you may have now is "Will I still be able to give my whole heart even if this is the only chunk left?" Of course! The answer is YES. With God's unfailing, divine and merciful love, you are already whole again. Even if you don't ask Him, He exactly knew that, that's why He gave you the opportunity to love and gave you the chance to be loved back. Isn't it amazing?

 

 

 

 

With all these being said, are you excited to meet your GG? Then I'll have 3 things to share before you meet your "The One"

1) Jesus is the ONE. Sadly but don't be fooled by "You complete me" phrases because you are indeed complete already. Your idea of meeting your "the one" already happened and you are on your way of meeting your "Second One". That's why I am that 100% sure that it's perfectly fine with Him if your heart is no longer whole.

2) Let the ONE lead you to your Second One. Because allowing Him to do His work on you, you will never had a bad relationship again. It may not be your perfect kind of relationship (with no fights, whatsoever) but it will be something you'll definitely thank HIM.
 

3) Being in a season of singlehood is the BEST time to know your The ONE more. Use this time to work on your "relationship" with the ONE.

Then how will you know that you are ready to jump into the next level?
 

Adjust on what he can offer. Ladies, I know that you always have this pre-conceive notion towards guys that will always pay the tab, he should make it a little more extra special with extra effort on top? My point is, don't be demanding. If you are okay with fishball, siomai or kwek-kwek with gulaman plus isaw on the side, then congratulations girl because you are one step ready in being in a relationship.

Be your partner's number 1 support. Show your significant other how supportive you are but please, do not overdo it to the extent na dinaig mo pa ang nanay niya ha? Letting the other party know and feel that you understand him/her is more than enough to show how much you care.
 

Contradict and point out one's mistake (in a subtle way). I am not suggesting that you fight for the sake of "fighting" to put some spice in your relationship. NO, NO! If your partner is showing signs that is worrisome, say temper issue or unacceptable behavior for starting a fight with you, cut him/her short right away. But again, do this in a subtle way and not condescending tone.


A few reminders:

You must continue to LOVE God more than anything else, that means God first before your GG.

Pray together but set a praying time alone, too.

Be each other's reason why you will fall in love with Jesus even more.

Respect one another's values and differences.

Above all, enjoy and have fun knowing one another as you get to know more Jesus.